Depression is almost always accompanied by fear and its by-product, anger. We fear that our personal failures and inadequacies will be exposed and that shame and humiliation will soon follow. The pressure of this fear leaves us in a state of perpetual stress. Our thoughts race at night when we try to sleep. Angry thoughts fill our mind. Anxiety and dread fill our heart, and every fibre of our being screams out to isolate in order to avoid the hurt that would surely come if anyone gets to know the real us.
Does that work? In a sense, yes. When we do not relate to others, they do not hurt us. But the downside is that isolation leads to loneliness and a lack of fulfillment in our life. So we fall into a pattern as we try to protect ourselves: fear of shame > stress > anger > anxiety > isolation.
So what is a better way? Today's scripture says if we live in the light, as God is in the light, then we will fellowship with each other. When we have life failures, if we confess our sin, Jesus will forgive. God wants us to remember he loves us unconditionally and he has given us others to share our joys and sorrows. Don't hide from him . . . or them.