Keys to Communication: More Than Words

Keys to Communication: More Than Words

Committed Couples: God's Plan for Marriage & the Family

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Today's Scripture
"Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with actions and in truth." 1 John 3:18 NIV

Thoughts for Today
Do you ever say one thing and your spouse hears a totally different message than you intended?

Faulty communication is a common cause of marital conflict. In fact, most married couples experience miscommunication at times. One message is sent, but a different one is received. This week we will look at some keys to successful communication.

One thing we need to remember is that the words we say don't necessarily determine what is heard. Our tone of voice, facial expression and overall body language usually speak louder than words. Timing is also important. Consider what kind of a day your spouse has had and pressures that might be having an impact. Other communication keys include thinking before speaking, maintaining eye contact, listening before answering, and building up rather than pulling down.

Consider this
One sure way not to miscommunicate is to frequently say the three words I love you to your spouse. There are also many non-verbal ways you can express your love. Plan a special dinner or trip, buy something you know he or she has been wanting, help with a project your spouse is working on. Husbands, let your wife have a day all for herself occasionally. All these acts are really ways of communicating your love.

God communicates his love to us not only through his words, but through his actions. We need to do the same.

Father, help me express love to my spouse in my body language and actions as well as my words. In Jesus' name

These thoughts were drawn from

Committed Couples: God's Plan for Marriage & the Family
by Dr. Jimmy Ray Lee. Whether in a private or group setting, couples will be encouraged spiritually and romantically as they research biblical principles that affirm their vows. This book can help every married couple grow spiritually and emotionally in their relationship. It is also a great help for engaged-to-be-married couples.

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